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How to Let Go

How to Let Go: Regaining Your Natural Buddha Baby Abilities

If you are reading this and under the age of two, you are extraordinary! Under two years old and you can read! Wow! Most children two and under, universally, have no interest in reading, or anything, for that matter, other than being.

They do exercise an ability, however, that is quite ordinary, quite natural to them (but either overlooked, forgotten or sought after by the giants around them): the babes naturally, intuitively, and constantly "know" how to let go. They are absolute masters on how to let go!

If you've got kids or grandkids, and you've spent any time observing the 'littlies, you know what I mean. Feelings and sensations just pass through the little guys…there's no holding on, no resistance…they simply allow whatever is happening in the moment, and whatever is being experienced, perceived, heard, but without identifying with it, without filters, without comparison to a past or future. There is little, if any, learning going on, either…that comes a bit later.

Now, discomfort and hunger are announced with cries and agitation, as a natural response. But even those feelings are let go of once the cause is addressed. There may be a display of what sounds like displeasure or anger…but there's definitely a continuum of letting go occurring through it all!

So, if these infant gurus, these tiny Buddhas, have this wonderful innate ability of knowing how to let go, what happened to that ability past age two? Why wasn't it treasured and nurtured and allowed to continue as an every moment, everyday experience? Where did it go?

What Happens to Our Natural Ability to Let Go?

Answer: A strong and steady avalanche of (well-meant) learned behavior in the form of rules and regulations, "have to's," "must do's," "how to's" and "should's" (generously seasoned with the word "no!") were directed at the little being until their "how to let go" treasure was buried, their light obscured, and seemingly lost beneath a "mountain of mind," crowned by the belief in a now very limited and finite sense of "me."

Simpler Answer: This natural ability, the how to let go, never went anywhere. We do let go occasionally, unconsciously, spontaneously during our day–usually when our backs are against the wall.

Simplest Answer: Letting go is the absence of holding on–and you can simply, easily let go now.

Let me explain by asking you to take part in a simple exercise, a simple release.

A Simple Excercise Demonstrating How to Let Go

From your surroundings, get an object that can fit into the palm of your hand–a small rubber ball, or a bean bag, something you can grip and then drop to the floor without giving it a thought. Now, hold the object in front of you and really give it a good squeeze. Pretend this is one of your limiting feelings, and that your hand represents your gut or your consciousness. If you squeezed the object long enough, it would start to feel uncomfortable, yet familiar.

Now, open your hand and roll the object on our palm and fingers. Notice that you are the one holding onto it–it's not attached to your hand. The exact same is true for our feelings–your feelings are as attached to you as this object is attached to your hand.

We hold onto our feelings, and then forget that we are holding on to them! It's even in our language: when you feel angry or sad, we don't usually say "I feel angry" or "I feel sad." We say "I am angry" or "I am sad." Without realizing it, we are mis-identifying that we are the feeling. Oftentimes, we even believe a feeling is holding on to us. This is not true; we are always in control, but just not aware of it.

Now, let the object go; simply decide to drop it. What happened? You let go of it, and it dropped to the floor.

Was that difficult?


That's how to let go. That's how to release. And you can do the same thing with any feeling or emotion: simply choose or decide to let it go.

Letting Go of Feelings

Following are the step-by-step directions for how to let go:

Consider an issue or problem (or goal) that you are presently aware of and would like to feel better about, or that you would like to change (or achieve). As an experiential process, rather than an intellectual one, pose the following questions with your heart, rather than your head.  Prior to two years old, the "head" was, indeed, no where to be found… so, for now, lead with your heart, as best as you can.

So, when you think of your issue, problem or goal:

  • Notice (allow) any feelings or sensations generated by it to be here.
  • Now, as best and as fully as you can, can you welcome the feeling and any   pictures, sensations or thoughts arising with it?
  • Could you let that feeling go? (In other words, are you capable of letting it go?) If you dropped the object a moment ago, you know you can.
  • Would you let that feeling go? (Are you willing to?)
  • When? (An invitation to decide to let it go now.)

Repeat this process, these preceding steps, as often as needed–by yourself or with emotional support–until you feel free of the particular feeling with which you began; until you feel relaxed, open, lighter, confident, at ease.

That's how to let go!

It is one of several simple yet powerful processes that make up The Sedona Method, liberating our natural ability to let go of any unwanted feeling on the spot, quietly within ourselves, and feel in control, no matter what is going on around us.

How can some babes sleep through "catastrophe" and remain unscathed? Hmmm…perhaps it's not because they are so small, but because they are so infinite…

Here's to the babe in all of us! Enjoy!

Tim McCavitt , Sedona Method Licensed Instructor and Certified Coach



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